Our Prophet Muhammed(SAW) and our Sayidda Khadija(RAA) were the greatest example of how two people's love for Allah, and love for each other, can make people truly great. I challenge any one of us to be the way they were, to live together the way they lived together, to love each other as they loved each other. If we but only clean out our hearts and open are eyes, maybe, just maybe, we will have a chance. Insha Allah, may we find our peace.

Sisters, do you want to rise to greatness? If you do then there are some outstanding characteristics about our Sayidda Khadija that you should really take a look at. They are her distaste for the Dunya and her desire for Akhira, and her love for Allah and for the messenger of Allah, peace and blessing be upon him, and her Ridda. I spoke about Ridda to you last week and I hope it benefited you.

Abu Huraira reported that Gabriel came to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) and said: Allah's Messenger, lo. Khadija is coming to you with a vessel of seasoned food or drink. When she comes to you, offer her greetings from her Lord, the Exalted and Glorious, and on my behalf and give her glad tidings of a palace of jewels in Paradise wherein there is no noise and no toil.

Usually when we think of those who suffered in the days of the rising of Islam we think of Abu Bakr, we think of Omar, Ali, Abu Huraira, and Bilal; Radia Allahu Anhum, May Allah be pleased with them all. All of them loved Allah and his Messenger, and subsequently, all were subjected to poverty. I mean severe poverty. Yet so did the women; their wives, their daughters, their sisters, and their mothers. Look back at Sayidda Khadija (R.A.A) and look at what she went through. This is a woman whom in her late fifties and early sixties (the equivalent of maybe seventy-five or eighty years old today) going from a pretty comfortable life to literally nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing; Even her daughters were forcibly divorced from their husbands. Sayidda Khadija never complained, never said so much a peep of dissatisfaction. That is because she was excellent in her faith, she was of the strongest of Eman, and she cared for nothing else than to please Allah and to please his Messenger, peace and blessing be upon him.

Many of us men, as you will see Sisters, can either be thrown off or set straight in our Iman solely from the character of our wives. That is why I am being so hard on you. Ladies, you were given the mastery of language and the beauty of emotion, what would you use it for? To complain, or to praise? To support, or to put down? To make your family better Muslims, or to lead them astray? That is all in complete dependence on your eman. Your actions are will be your representatives. You know what is asked of you, the question is do you follow it. A good wife is the one who will see her entire family in Jannah and be able to say: "I pushed them there, I used the tools Allah gave me to make them better, I am the reason my family is here, truly all glory is to Allah who has guided us to be believers."

"Marry those among you who are single, and the virtuous ones among your slaves, male or female: If they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace; for Allah is Ample-giving, and He knoweth all things." (Surat An-Nur, 24:32).

There is a final thing that bothers me so: dependence on money. Ask yourself, what do you really expect from a husband? Really, just think about it. Do you think you have what it takes to recognize a person's Eman? If there were the most pious person in the world who has no money to give you dowry, to buy a house, to give you the security of wealth; would you marry him? Sayidda Khadija (R.A.A) married a man who had in terms of money, had very little wealth, and she recognized his richness in Eman before anyone else could. A rich man may be the most pious person in the world and so may the poorest. The matter at hand is will you recognize it if you see it, will you see the inner wealth or will you stick to the prejudices that have binded human beings for as far back as history can tell. Remember, the bigger your Eman the bigger the test Allah puts you through. If you are a pious person and truly love Allah and his messenger, you can expect to be put the test with your wealth...especially your wealth. Remember that Allah has the power to give and take away. You will not find any security in the husband that you choose. The only security a believer ever has is his trust in Allah. No position, or degree, or amount of credit can give you that. Look at Sayidda Khadija; see what a perfect example of womanhood she was. She how much she loved Allah and how much her Messenger and Husband loved her. This is our Mother, Khadija; Radia Allahu Anha, May Allah be pleased with her.

On to the Brothers. Really men, it's a very simple matter: the way we treat our women. I don't mean women as in just our wives; I mean it as our wives, mothers, and sisters. Yet most importantly our mothers. Just so that you know, a pious woman will be looking for one key thing in you when she's looking to get married...that is to say...how well you treat your mother. If you can treat your own mother well, you can expect to treat any other person well, man or woman. The mother has more rights on you than anyone else. She is three times more sacred than the father and is only surpassed by Allah and the Messenger of Allah. You had better really re-examine yourself. You may not think of it in this way but yes, your mother is a woman. She was once the same age as you, with the same goals, dreams, and problems you had. Indeed, the same traits and the same headaches you will experience with your wife will indeed be no different than you have with your mother. Really, I'm not kidding, just ask your dad. If you can't treat you mom the best how can you expect to treat any other person, man or woman, as a Muslim should?

Subhan Allah, the only thing you need to do to measure how well you will treat your wife is to ask your mother...or even your sister. You can always count on them (women that is) to tell you if you're doing something wrong. I don't want to get in too much trouble with the Sisters today so I'll leave it at that.

Our women, however much Tylenol we have to take to survive them; they were given to mankind as a blessing, and rightfully so. A woman with a good heart and good Eman will be able to make you feel the way you felt when you first arrived to this pain-giving world; She will make you forget all the pain this world has to offer, and hold you in her arms as you fall asleep to the sound of the beating of her heart. The woman was created to make you feel all warm and fuzzy. She was created as the best of survivors, given to man to help us survive. She was given especially by Allah; love her insha Allah, and treat her well, and you will be the best amongst Muslims. There is no need to say any more.

Sisters, I ask you, where is our Khadija?
Where is that woman we only dream in our dreams?
Where is the woman who rekindles our Deen?
Who raises Iman and makes us Amin.
Where is my Khadija, where is the woman I need?
She gives everything to Allah, and saves nothing for me.

Brothers, my brothers how could I ever have scorned you?
I'm sorry, I'm sorry for all that I blamed you.
I had thought for an instant that you were somebody else
I found out instead, that you treat women the best.
You tell your wife that you love her, you can't help but to mean it
She was your gift from Allah, you wouldn't dare to mistreat it?

Allah, please, give us your peace. La illaha illa enta.